To my Charley on his wedding day-I know you think these notes are silly. I have watched you scrunch your face over the years when I give them to you.But understand that sometimes I want to tell you something and I want to get it just right.Putting it down on paper helps me do that.I wish I had been a better writer.I wish I had gone to college.If I had,I think I would have studied English and maybe my vocabulary would improved.So many times I feel I am using the same words over and over.like a women wearing the same dress every day.So boring!
What I want to say to you, Charley,is you are marrying a wonderful girl.I think she in many ways like I think of your sister.Like a daughter.She is sweet and patient.You should be the same with her,Charley.
Here is what you are going to find out about marriage: you have to work at it together.And you have to love three things.You have to love
1)Each other
2)Your children(When you have some!!Hint!Hint!)
3)Your marriage
What I mean by that ast one is, there maybe times that you fight,and sometimes you and Catherine won't even like each other.But those are times you have to love your marriage.It's like a third party.Look at your wedding photos.Look at any memories you've made.And if you believe in those memories,they will pull you back together.
I'm very proud of you today, Charley.I am putting this in your tuxedo pocjet because I know how you lose things.
I love you everyday!
Mom
(from Chick Benetto's paper,circa 1974)
for one more day(Mitch Albom)